Introvert in an extroverted world
Managing expectations in an often extroverted world can be difficult
Introverted in an extroverted world
Managing expectations in an often extroverted world can be difficult
Introverted in an extroverted world
Managing expectations in an often extroverted world can be difficult
As an introvert, you've probably experienced that it's hard to ‘play along’ when all the rules of socialising apply to extroverts. They are heard, promoted and noticed. You may have experienced that your skills and potential aren't recognised because you don't speak up or stand out in the same way as your colleagues.
However, that doesn't mean you have to change yourself. Introverts have a number of strengths that can move mountains and deserve to be appreciated and recognised.
I've helped many introverts find their space and place in a world of extroverts. I know that
- introverts typically think things through more
- that introverts don't speak up until they know their suggestions are valid
- that being an introvert has nothing to do with being shy or lacking confidence
- that most introverts are sick and tired of being overlooked in favour of extroverted foghorns (excuse my language).
I also know that some of the best leaders or colleagues I've known have been introverts.
But most introverts don't know how to turn their unique strengths and qualities into a strategic advantage. I can help you with that.
How I can help you as an introvert
I know there are some areas where introverts typically need a gentle nudge.
Assertiveness
Learn to communicate your needs clearly without compromising your authenticity. I help you find your voice and your place and make sure it is heard - your way.
Self-esteem
I regularly meet introverts who have been overlooked and ignored so often that it has affected their self-esteem. Through coaching, I help you recognise and rebuild confidence in your abilities so you can stand strong in your professional and personal life.
The balance between being an introvert in an extroverted world
Together, we'll find the balance you need to thrive and take your place without feeling like you have to be someone else.
Customised coaching for leaders and researchers
I have coached many introverted leaders and researchers who have high demands on themselves and experience stress due to their less outgoing nature. We will work with concrete methods to manage stress and create success on your own terms.
As an introvert myself, I understand the challenges you face. Many people perceive me as an extrovert because I've learnt to adapt, but believe me it has taken its toll on my energy.
In my coaching, I draw on a wide range of tools and practices and most of it will be based on scientifically proven practices and proven methods because I know it works.
About the differences between introvert and extrovert brains
- Brain activity: Introverts often have a higher basal activity in their brains. This means they generally have more internal stimulation and can feel overwhelmed faster than extroverts, who often seek external stimulation to feel energised.
- Dopamine response: Introverts respond differently to dopamine, a chemical in the brain that is triggered by rewards. For introverts, large amounts of dopamine can lead to overstimulation, whereas extroverts thrive on it as their brains are more ‘reward-seeking.’
- Parasympathetic nervous system: Introverts tend to be more actively controlled by the parasympathetic nervous system, which is associated with relaxation and recovery. Extroverts are more governed by the sympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for action and the ‘fight or flight’ response.
- Body language and energy expenditure: Introverts often expend more energy on social interactions and can feel drained after prolonged interaction. Their brain is more likely to process information more deeply, which can lead to faster mental exhaustion.
- Blood flow in the brain: Research shows that introverts have a higher blood flow to the frontal cortex, which is responsible for problem solving, planning and thinking. This means introverts spend more time reflecting and analysing before taking action.
- Stimuli sensitivity: Introverts are often more sensitive to external stimuli, such as noise, light and social interaction, which can cause them to withdraw to recharge.